Straining Relationships…..
This can b a hot topic when hot wrds r exchanged.The relationship wrd is nt jst limited to bf/gf rather it extend further to every relationship. Hardly there could b a time where we all had nt faced such relationship problems.
When a relationship distorts if feels like havoc.We cant believe whts all happening around us at tht moment.Y is there so much of arguments.sweet talks have changed into endless argument…..
Actually we jst focus on present but not when such argument begin.There is always a reason behind all such things. Nobody wants unhappy life. So how to soughtout these endless arguments.
ü Remain calm ----- The first remedy can b, jst understand the situation & remain calm throughout.Bcz yelling n getting agitated wont work.Even if they wrk by force,still wont hav much impact.the person may agree to d situation for d first time bt next time wil simple reply “no”
There was an argument between 2 kids n one kid’s father was policeman. He jst put a slap on the other child face for the argument.the kid remain silent at tht moment. BT next day he made a plan n killed the other boy for receiving slap frm his father.this is the news story I heard today which inspired me 2 write this article.
If the father has understood the situation n didn’t slap the otherboy may b his child could b live. So arguments hav no ends…
ü Listen----the imp aspect or the gist of ending all argument.n listening itself depend upon calmness of the person.the more mind would b calm The more wil b absorb the situation better.
Let the other person whole frustration burst upon u.bt still b calm n listen properly.when a person is bursting his whole emotion comes out. He might say those words which he dont wanna say. This all points sometimes r d base of real reason
Make ur own point-----listening is nt complete until n unless u don’t make a strong base for ur opinion.In ur opinion,u hav to include ur points as well as those points which were spl affecting the person Or pinching him so high.If u unable to do this ur whole listening skills is waste.
and if ur opinion contain such a strong base then obviously ur favour will b supported n the other person would agree to u in amiable manner.
Spl suggestion ----- make sure while making ur opinion””
- U don’t hurt another person feelings.
- Don’t memorise the earlier things otherwise past discussion will attract another argument.
- Convince the other person by wish nt by force…like in 3 idiots
R madhwan said to his father I wanna b a wild life photographer bt also I wanna convince u for tht bt nt by threatening to hang myself n commit suicide in any other way bt by wilfully.
Finally to conclude my article I wanna include my fav serials”s lines….
Love is like sugar n life is like water …the more u would add sugar in water the more sweeter it wil b
Regards ---
Palak singh
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