The ability of any person on your team to accept himself or herself and to profit emotionally, spiritually and financially from such self-acceptance is vitally important to both you and your organization. Self-acceptance is the essence of emotional maturity and emotional maturity is essential for personal achievement.
Each of us is complex – not totally understandable even to ourselves. Each of us has a mixture of strengths and weaknesses that make up our self-image. We never share all of this image with others. We also have another image – a sort of idealized self-image – that we try to present to the world, which may or may not be consistent with our actual self-image. The narrower the gap between our internal self-image and the image we present to others, the more self-acceptance we'll achieve.
Indicators of Low Self-Acceptance Include:
q Rationalization: These people blame external circumstances for lack of accomplishments. They often criticize others for what they don't like about themselves.
q Talking too much: This is usually a defense mechanism or smoke screen to hide real feelings.
q Anger: People who are quick to anger are often rigid and have a negative self-image.
q Poor listener: People without self-acceptance will spend an inordinate amount of time trying to impress other people and, as a result, will be poor listeners.
As a leader, it's part of your job to understand and help people develop more self-acceptance. This will take time but helping a person develop self-acceptance that will lead to higher achievement is time well spent. People who find it hard to accept themselves usually are adversely influenced by early childhood experiences and have developed motivational blocks that prevent optimal performance. The first thing you can do to help people overcome years of conditioning is recognize their growth potential and resist criticizing them for something that has taken years to develop. By helping individuals maximize their strengths and develop their knowledge, skills, attitudes, and experiences required for success, you can have a tremendous impact on their self-acceptance and achievement.
Also, look for opportunities to give each member of your team positive feedback on results and progress. Even if a person doesn't do a job exactly right, give positive feedback on doing it almost right, or at least for doing it better than before. As each member of your team gains self-acceptance, the collective achievements of your team will multiply.
Also, look for opportunities to give each member of your team positive feedback on results and progress. Even if a person doesn't do a job exactly right, give positive feedback on doing it almost right, or at least for doing it better than before. As each member of your team gains self-acceptance, the collective achievements of your team will multiply.
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