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Gurpreetkaur (article) (110 Points)

21 October 2011

i m very much upset from my life. i m student of ca final. its my 5th attempt. in 5 attempts may muje sirf ik accounts ki exemption mili vo bi is bar last hey. every time results tak main padti nahi jb result aata hey and fail ho jati ho to i got depressed pir bi main padna start karti ho to near exams every time i got sick. is bar muje viral ho gaya nd blood cells kam ho gaye. aur itni jiada weakness ki wajh se main kuch nahi pad pae ab tak. muje bilkul samaj nahi aa raha ke muje ab kya karna chaiye last time exams ke bad maine job join karli thi due to financial needs. vaha leaves li due sicknes to vo bi resign karne ko keh rahe hey. i m totally embarssmed plz sm body help me ki muje kya karna chaiye ab?

plz plz plz help me

gurpreet

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rahul (friends) (81 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

i can just say 1 thng have faith on god, nd is baar jitna padh ke de skte ho dedo xam ,pehle bhe to kuch kiya hoga as u hav got exemption in 1 subject so give ur xams passionately , Maybe ho he jae 2lear

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CA VISHAL RANA,CS,B.Com,AMFI (Chartered Accountant in Whole Time Practice) (4354 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

FORGIVES ALL PREVIOUS HAPPENINGS.....YOU HAVE NEW LIFE TODAY.....BECAUSE EVERY SUCCESSFUL HAS PAINFUL STORY

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amar soni (ca final) (113 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

look forward jo hona tha so ho gaya

Shantanu (CA) (406 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

bhagwan na kare but if u fail in coming exams then pls take a rest for atleast 6 months,,and do job and go for a tour to natural places like hrishikesh etc,,and then start after 6 mnths from zero level,,,bole to BPR (Business Process re engneering)

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Sourav Banerjee MA,MSW (Shabda Bramha) (8842 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

"Maybe . . . the brightest future will
always be based on a forgotten past;
after all, you can't go on
successfully in life until you let go
of your past mistakes, failures and
heartaches.

Maybe . . you should hope for enough
happiness to make you sweet, enough
trials to make you strong, enough
sorrow to keep you human, and enough
hope to make you happy.

Maybe . . . the happiest of people
don't necessarily have the best of
everything; they just make the most of
everything that comes along their way." ( Shared by Ms. Vandana Mulchandani whom I consider to be my younger Sister)

Dear Gurpreet,

No doubt you are going through a very bad time in your life and nobody will understand how hurt you are and how much your heart bleeds - only a wearer knows where the shoe pinches.

During such times when everything seems to go wrong with a person, no word of encouragement penetrates deep enough into the mind and every inspiration lives a short life. I experienced that in my own life for more than 12 years and I'm ready to share the same with you if you think it's worth knowing.

What I found in those years mentioned that no matter how dejected I become, how desperately I seek help - Divine or Earthly - nothing would change for the better. Having forced to reconcile myself to this helpless state, I somehow developed a philosophy that is akin to the philosophy of the above quotations.

I decided, as I'm not going to have anyone by my side, that I must be my own help. I knew, I have to fight it out. And a depressed soul cannot fight properly. I felt, if I drop my shoulder everyone will try to lower it further. So, I had no choice to stand by myself.

I was just a 12th pass Mr. Nowhere then, having willingly dropped out myself from the Chemistry ( Hons.) course for some reason. Compared to that, you have already passed IPCC.

Today, I'm well-placed in life, have a wonderful family and even more wonderful daughter. And I'm still alive to share my experience with you.

If I could endure all these and can still live a life worth living, why can't you?

I tried, I endured, I survived. Do it. You too will.

Best of luck ( it won't always run away from you in any case).

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Vandana Mulchandani (Finance Manager ) (9227 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

Dear Gurpreet,

Sourav dada has already given you such a good advice by sharing his own experience.

Dont lose hope go ahead and give exams, you still have 10 days to go. You have already done your studies earlier. Go through all the RTP and suggested for last 5 attempts of one group.

Have faith in yourself, be confident, you will get through. Concentrate on your studies, dont think wht happened previously, no guilt instead learn from the past mistakes and do much better. Feeling guilty on the past and thinking on it making yourself unhappy and you are thinking negative thoughts, which are repeating in your life and making you beleive that way, instead be POSITIVE and leave all what happened and prepare well. GOD HELPS THOSE WHO HELPS THEMSELVES - if you try from ur side with full confidence, faith. see the results....ALL THE BEST .GOD BLESS YOU. GURPREET YOU WILL DEFINATELY ROCK

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Vandana Mulchandani (Finance Manager ) (9227 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

Thank you Sourav dada....

Anil Sankar V (CA) (1877 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

See my frnd. . .Life is full of ups and down . . There is no plain slope at all . . If all every thing is all right . .Some thing will be wrong with us. . Wat one needs inner confidence . .change ur attitude . .Towards disease . . U shall be ready for anything . .wat ever it may be . .Any type of problem. . Ur will power shoule be strong not weak hearted. . Wat ever might be the circumstances. . I feel thats how one can face the world. . .be ready for anything . . Greatest people in dis earth become great by facing problems. . There is no greatness in travelling in plain sea than rough sea. .

Sanket (!..Live to Give..!) (16427 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

First of All read this....

We cannot change our past…we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude…I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.
And so it is with you . . . we are in charge of our Attitudes.”

You can't change your past butYou can change your tomorrow by your actions today.

The Hope is always there that "We can Change our Future......" and that's undoubtebly We can....

And don't be so panic and worrying because "Worrying is like a Rocking Chair. It gives you something to do, but it does not get you anywhere."

it happens sometimes... Somewhere it is because of your fear and Lack of Preparation...

Dnt think about your Result... Just DO your Karma... that is Study with a Positive Approach and Be Positive....

Remember It is not your weakness that makes you weak, but it's the overestimation of your weakness that makes you weak. So Forget about blaming on Yourself... You have Power and You have Potential also. You just need someone who can Motivate You....

Discover your points of weakness and Start from the begining... Right Now just Concentrate on 1st Group Only...

and grab maximum marks. clear it......so your exemption can't ruin....

Yes You CAN

My wishes are with you

All the Best and Rock the exam with a Positive Attitude.......

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"I decided, as I'm not going to have anyone by my side, that I must be my own help. I knew, I have to fight it out. And a depressed soul cannot fight properly. I felt, if I drop my shoulder everyone will try to lower it further. So, I had no choice to stand by myself." Thanx Saurav DA

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contact psychiatrist. As this ckould be some child hood impressions. From that point of view this has to be analysed. This is possible only to a professional counsellor.

To know who is nearby to you contact nearest MBBS doctor. OR directly go to a nearest govt. hospital.

Wish you normalcy immediately and happy deewali.

CMA. CS. Sanjay Gupta ("PROUD TO BE AN INDIAN") (114230 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

Dear Gurpreet,

Your main problem is that you have started doubting yourself. You are not confident of what you are doing and how you are approaching everything. My only advice to you is ...

"Ki aap khud ko samajhne ki kosis karo...decide karo ki aap life mai chahti kya ho...aur wo raah bhi aapko khud dhoondh kar nikalni hai jispe chalakr aap wo achieve kar sakti ho...Hum sab chahe aapko kitne bhi suggestion de iss situation se aapko sirf 1 insaan nikal sakta hai aur wo khud aap...apne aap par se kabhi bharosha mat khona....Jab hamara yakeen apne aap se uth jata hai har paristhiti kafi muskil lagne lagti hai...Bas apne aap par yakeen rakho....Rest lekar fir apna best effort do...sirf exam pass karne ke liye nahi balki apne aap ko behtar banane k liye...Aur 1 baat hamesha yaad rakhna kI agar aapko 5 attempts lage hai to iska matlab ye nahi ki aap kisi se kam ho...bas aapne apne potential ko sahi tarike se istemal nahi kiya abhi tak...and yes...."Nothing is permanenet in life, so is faliure"

Regards

And this poem for you..

“Raah mein kaante ek do nahi hote

raah kaanton se bhari hoti hai

Manzil us raah ki aakhiri chor par khadi hoti hai

Jahan har kadam par milti ek nayi choti hai

Dekh use jinke hounsle dagmagaate hain

Ve manzil ko bhula kaanton mein ulajh jaate hain

Jinki nigaah manzil par hoti hai

Ve kaanton pe hi chalkar manzil ko paate hain”

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CA Ravinder Singh (Chartered Accountant) (98 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

Gurpreet

Dont loose heart . Its time to take positive approach in life. I know in that period of life u feel alone but when u got succeed evrybody remrk u as an exapmle who never thought to drop after so many failure.

You are a final student and one step away from ur manjil.You are failed 5 times in final and got depression . I am the student who failed 6 times in the intial stage after getting passed in CA foundation.

Even I dont able to get exemption in single paper, Inter ka first Grp clear hua, next attemt me exemption aayi Income tax me. Secone grp exemption k last chance me nikkla. Yahi bas nahi, Final Second grp First time not cleared, IInd time IDT 59 no exemption ,IIIrd time ISCA 58, At last it is cleared . Final Ist grp bhi 2 attempt k baad nikkla. Now I am Chartered Accountant only because evry time I failed I manage my self prepare again with positive approach and this become possible with the blessing of my parents, Guru & God.

May GOD Bless you and you achieve ur target in coming exams.

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CMA Ankur Pandey (Govt.Job) (4401 Points)
Replied 21 October 2011

hi gurpreet

y u feel lonely ?..this is not right attitude....

Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections but instantly set about remedying them -- every day begin the task a new

Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.

consult your any family members,becoz they are only one who will be always with ur side..no matter what world has opinion about u..

so cheer up..life has more things to cheer...ary CA bhi ban jaogi..bus ek baar apne per vishwas to kerke deko....

Remember one thing ...........nobody is perfect....and.......... everyone is unique....so just enjoy your uniqueness

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